How to deal with angry children?

 How to deal with angry children?

Children often have tantrums, which is normal. They express their feelings through anger. What they are not able to say openly, they express it through anger.

Usually, children get angry if they want something, if they are sad or in pain, if they cannot eat what they want. When they get angry, they cry, scream, throw hands, jump from high places. Which is also called tantrum in medical language. But this is normal.

This is how children learn to hold their own and behave. But even as you get older, such behavior, such as getting angry, beating someone when you don't understand, it is called unhealthy behavior. These symptoms are not normal but can also be due to mental illness.

Dr. Vijay Gyawali, Psychiatrist

Why do children keep getting angry even as they grow older?

Children get angry for many reasons. Mental health is also one of the reasons. Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) also causes children to get angry. Its symptoms include inability to concentrate, impulsiveness, quick decision-making, and repetition.

Children also get angry due to separation anxiety. For example, when returning home from school, getting angry, snapping, and chirping are symptoms of it. They are excited to see their parents after the school holidays. Not knowing how to express that enthusiasm, they get angry and angry.

They get angry because they cannot express their feelings clearly due to family discord, quarrels, when their wishes are not fulfilled and also due to bullying in school.

How to trick children?

Usually, children have a habit of getting angry and upset over small things. At this time, they should not be scolded, beaten and beaten. It can have a bad effect on them mentally. Instead, if they are very angry, you should try to understand their feelings.

Children can be fooled by applying Parent Management Technique (PMT).

At first, they should be taught how to express their feelings. When you get angry, write down what you are angry about, show a red card when you get angry, and sit with both hands tied.

If you don't like something, you can make him take a long breath, close his eyes, and sing a song without showing anger. Which helps to reduce their anger.

A change can be made in the language that deceives them. Like, if you are angry, why are you angry, did you do your homework or not?, isn't it time to go to school? Asking them like this can make them even more angry. Instead of using a different kind of language, children can be told 'I am angry today, you are fooling me'. It learns that when angry, this is how it behaves. Anger is also reduced.

Similarly, it can be taken for a walk or to play inside or outside the house. For example, you can make them play in the sand, play football, run, etc. Which helps to 'release' their angry energy.

Five standards, which show that a child is developing correctly

 Five standards, which show that a child is developing correctly

The dimensions of the child's development are mainly of five types. Anil Ojha says.

He says, 'The first basis to see whether a child's development has taken place in the right way or not is his physical development. At what age does the child sit, at what age does it start walking etc. A child had to start walking in one year. There was no problem when I started walking after two or four months. However, if he does not start walking even after that, the parents should be aware that his development has not taken place properly.

The development of another language is equally important. Children start speaking from the age of one year. Ojha says that if they give examples of mother, father or any other word, it should be understood that their language has developed well. He says, "If a child does not speak even until the age of two, and even when speaking, they do not make clear examples of words, then it should be understood that their language development has not been done properly."

According to Ojha, a child's social and emotional development should also be accompanied by age. Like a one-year-old child should be loved by the mother rather than kissing the child on the cheek. I had to clap instead of clapping.

If a child uses his hands, fingers, wrists and muscles to grasp something, it is called 'fine motor skill'. Through these skills, children learn to coordinate their eyes, hands, fingers and wrists. This is important for two- to five-year-old children, says Ojha. This skill should be developed at the age of 2 to 5 years. With its help, children learn to hold things, write, understand etc.'

The intellectual development of a child according to age is equally important. A one-year-old child starts looking for hidden things. If he shows curiosity about something, it should be understood that his intellectual development is also going well. However, Ojha said that if these five skills are not developed in a child, then his development is considered to be delayed.

What should be the weight and height according to the child's age?

If the weight and height of the children are according to their age, it can be understood that the child is healthy and the diet they are getting is good. Developmental pediatrician Dr. Ojha says that age and weight gain is a normal and necessary process as children grow.

He says that a child's weight at birth is 3 kg, but at 6 months, his weight doubles to 6 kg. When a child is born, its height is about 50 cm, and in one year it is 75 cm.

A 5-year-old child should weigh around 17.9 kg. He said that at this age, it is considered healthy for a child to have an average height of 42.5 inches.

If children's height and weight are not developing according to their age, then it should be understood that something is lacking somewhere. A doctor's advice should be taken for this.'' says Ojha.

Until what age does the child's physical development accelerate?

In the first year, the child's physical development is very rapid. Ojha said that physical development happens with the age of the child. However, even in a year, the speed will decrease. The child's mental development is very rapid in the first two to three years.

Special attention should be paid to the diet of the child during this age period

Special attention should be paid to the diet of children in the age group of two to three years. Proper nutrition is a solid foundation for a child's good health and development. Ojha said that children who have good nutrition can learn and grow well.

"Even if only mother's milk is enough for 6 months, from 6 months, you should start eating semi-solid foods such as pulses, jalous, fruit juice, litho." It should be taken.'

If the child is not growing properly, is under-age or abnormally large, the cause should be sought

If the child is not growing properly for its age, is small or abnormally large, it may be due to genetics. Some children look young till 11-12 years old but can grow rapidly in adulthood. Even if the child lacks nutrition, the growth and development of the child will not be done properly. Ojha said that due to some health problem, the child may look younger or older than his age.

He suggested that if children's development is not according to their age, they should seek the help of a doctor to find out the reason.

6 ways to strengthen children emotionally

 6 ways to strengthen children emotionally

  Nowadays, the competition in every field has increased a lot. In such a situation, it is the responsibility of the parents to make the child physically and emotionally strong. If a child is emotionally strong, he can overcome every difficulty easily.

Being emotionally strong enables the child to face problems. Also, they do not give up even in the face of challenges and failures and continue to strive. It is very important for a child to be emotionally strong. Because children who are not emotionally strong, even if they get low marks in the exam, they think that they have made a big mistake.

In such a situation, it is very important for the parents to strengthen the child emotionally from childhood. For that, parents themselves must be emotionally strong. Because children learn a lot by watching their parents.

How to make the child emotionally strong?

Do not scold the child

The way to make a child emotionally strong is not to scold him for small things. If you scold a child for small mistakes, it makes the child emotionally weak and his confidence starts to decrease.

When a child makes a mistake, he should be encouraged not to make the same mistake again. Also, if the child does not agree to do any work, he should be lovingly reasoned with him.

Create an environment where the child can speak freely

Parents should occasionally talk to their children and listen to them. By doing this, the child can tell the parents that this has affected me physically, mentally and emotionally. Even if the child listens carefully to everything and says we are with you, they are emotionally strong.

When children reach their teenage years, they can be very emotional. Even if they are taught how to control their emotions at that time, they become emotionally strong.

Teaching the child the importance of time

With the passage of time, there is a rapid change in technology. Also, there has been a change in children's behavior and confidence. Nowadays, children learn a lot from a young age. In such a situation, the child should be encouraged to do the right thing at the right time. The importance of time should be explained to them. This will create confidence in the child.

Teaching problem solving skills

Life is full of challenges. So it is necessary to teach the child how to deal with those challenges. They should be included in the decision-making process and should be helped to develop problem-solving skills. Children should be encouraged to think critically and solve everyday problems.

Helping to develop positive thinking

It is also important to develop positive thinking in children. There is a way to overcome every challenge. Therefore, continuous effort, perseverance and the ability to learn from mistakes should be increased. By developing a mindset that accepts challenges as a natural part of the learning process, children develop resilience and the ability to bounce back from setbacks.

Explain the importance of family

Emotional strength is the cornerstone to building strong, positive relationships. Encourage your child to develop good relationships with family and friends. The child should be told the benefits of building good relationships with others. With the help of family, friends and colleagues, children can easily get out of every difficult situation.

Parents are role models for children. In such a situation, the child should be supported at every step. He should be motivated to do something new. Encourage them to be better people.

What should a single parent pay attention to when raising a child?

 What should a single parent pay attention to when raising a child?

If the husband and wife separate for some reason, the responsibility of the children falls on the shoulders of one of the parents. There are many challenges to face during single parenthood.

The rate of children living with both parents in the US is decreasing every year. About a quarter of the children live there with their mother or father. This trend is not limited to America but is growing all over the world.

The reason for this may be because the mother or father works away from the family, because of family quarrels and divorce. Experts say, single parenthood is not a positive development. Children who live with one parent are more likely to have behavioral problems.

Behavioral problems in children

Children who grow up with a single parent may have behavioral problems and difficulties with emotional self-regulation. Single parents are not able to give enough time to their children. As a result, problems such as irritability, hyperactivity and inability to concentrate may appear in the child.

It also affects the future of children who grow up with single parents

Children who grow up with a single parent receive a lower level of education than other children. Because usually the income of a single parent is not as much as two parents. Therefore, most of the single parents cannot meet the needs of the house.

Due to lack of finances, if they do not get a good education, those children will not be able to get a good income-earning job in the future. In this case, along with their childhood, their future also passes in financial deprivation.

It is beneficial for both parents to be together for the best care of the child

If both parents are together, they get more time and attention to take care of the child. It is beneficial for both the parents to bring up the child together in the physical and mental development of the child. So, whatever the reason, it is better for parents to find effective ways to strengthen their family instead of looking for reasons to stay apart.

Instead of blaming, single parents should be helped

Socially, single parents should be helped instead of being blamed. This will improve the physical and mental health of millions of children.

What is a single parent to do?

Take time for yourself. Let's take care of our children as well as take care of ourselves. Being worried can cause problems in taking care of children.

It is good to have a daily schedule for you and your child. A single parent may face more problems due to wrong lifestyle. So it is better to go according to the schedule.

During single parenthood, you can take help from relatives or someone close to you. In the beginning, you can also take help from your friends. A single parent needs to be a friend to a child. Rather than being a parent, you should listen to the child as a friend. Their problems can be identified and solved only by becoming friends.