Let's listen to the child's feelings

No child can admit that he is weak, that he has lost. However, not all children have the same abilities. You would expect them to be at the forefront of sports, but the child was not interested. Or he may not have tried. So the friend overtook him.

This time you asked them, "Are you only second or third?" Why can't you be the first? '

Does he just not pay attention when you tell him something to do? Or does he just not pay attention when you tell him something to do?

The child had already tried to win. At least participated in sports. This was also a positive thing. You don't have to look at his positive side. He also participated in the exam. Tried to write. Some questions could not be resolved. Even now he had tried. You should be happy with what he did.

But, you are upset that your child did not get first in the exam or did not get good marks. You think your child is weaker than others. And, he expressed this sadness to them. It does not inspire or motivate them. Instead, pressure builds.

That is, your expectations become a mental burden or pressure for children. The pressure never makes progress. Instead, it weakens the child's morale. They lose the creative ability. So you have to understand that what you expect from them is just pressure.

You did not allow the child to dress as they wished. He didn't let me go to play with my friends. When he was hungry, he refused to eat. All this puts pressure on the child. Pressure always makes them weak and discouraged.

Your child failed the exam. He could not surpass everyone in sports. So is your child vulnerable?

You think, 'Yes, they are weak.'

You made your children feel weak because you compared them to others. When you get here, you have to keep in mind that no child can be compared to anyone else. Because children are born with their own talents and abilities. They are born with no innate strength. Their interests, desires, goals are determined by the environment in which they grow up, home environment, friends, family culture, etc. This is also improving their skills.

To understand the child. Read their temperament and tendencies. What do they want What are they interested in? Create a conducive environment accordingly.

Don't think of your child as a robot, a human being who does everything remotely according to your remote. You do not create the child according to your interests, but you create the appropriate environment according to the child's interests.

Your child is human. He has also brought some weaknesses in his birth. He can make human error. Don't assume that your baby needs to be perfect. No one in the world is perfect. Even warriors who set out to conquer the world are not perfect. They also have some shortcomings, weaknesses.

So don't forget to dig into your child's shortcomings. Give the child the environment to grow according to their interests and abilities. Give them freedom. Understand their interests and desires.